The Fetish Sex Advisor column is intended as a place where singles and couples can find in-depth articles and anonymously submit their questions about how to maneuver the complexities of Fetish, Kink and D/s-BDSM sex and realtionships   As a sex-positive transpersonal therapist and guide over the last 15 years I have worked with hundreds of men, women and couples who sought support to be honest and empowered in who they are sexually. For many this meant learning to heal from the decades of fear, shame and judgments that held their authentic desire back, or kept it hidden in shadow. I have lived my personal life 24/7 as a lifestyle Dom since 1998. Rounding out my personal and professional experience in Kink, I also had a 10 year stint as one of the few male pro Dom’s in the lifestyle. I taught other’s how to consciously express their desires, be present and embodied and stay in integrity with their agreements. I am forever and always an advocate for honestly, consensually expressed sexuality. All of these experiences will be combined in this column to offer insight and [...]