Pro tips for determining sexual normalcy. "Normal" put in quotes sums it all up. Normal should be tongue-in-cheek these days. There is no normal other than each individual’s sexual norm. I use the term "normal" now to mean personal to the individual. Your sexuality is as distinct as your fingerprint and as inherent as your eye color. I consider it normal for you and your partner to embrace your sexuality as your birthright. You have every right to claim, experience, and celebrate it. No government, law, religion, psychology, family nor anyone has any business interfering with your "normal" sexual behavior (a.k.a. your authentic sexual expression). But in this era of emerging sexual liberation, normal must also include consideration of conscious sexual codes and practices such as consent, negotiation, safe words, education, after-care, and more that can allow our edgiest desires to be reasonably expressed with an eager partner seeking a similar edge. How can you tell if your partner's sexual desire is normal? It sounds simple enough, but here’s the problem: We are in an era of expanding sexual expression unprecedented in the history of civilization. The vast range of human sexual potential [...]