A Sex-Positive Alternative to the Sex/Porn Addiction Therapy Model
“Galen Fous is a visionary looking to undo the shackles of societally induced sexual shame!” Dr. Michael Aaron, Sex Therapist, Author – Modern Sexuality
Whether you are someone seeking help in dealing with sexual compulsivity, or a sex therapist, psychologist, sex-educator, coach or student wanting to help clients embrace their sexuality in a healthy way, this talk will offer a strong foundation of techniques and practices to support you.
Standard admission – $20 – single or get 2 tickets for $30 (just order 2 tickets then use code 2430 on checkout) Register Here
This class offers 3 CE credits for therapists attending. Admission is $40 Register Here
Registration also includes a FREE digital copy of “Decoding Your Kink – Guide to Explore, Share and Enjoy Your Wildest Sexual Desires” DYK has been praised by sexual psychologists and Kink/Sex Educators as “Visionary …Masterful …Groundbreaking …Cutting Edge…Worth its Weight in Diamonds … Highly Recommended…A Must Read!”
Date: Mar 31- Entry 7:00 – Start: 7:30pm to 9:30pm
Location 730 Commercial Street, San Francisco, CA 94108
If someone is experiencing compulsive use of porn or sex, often called porn/sex-addiction, the Sexual Integration approach considers that the behavior could be a symptom of an underlying psychological conflict, not a psychological nor physical addiction.
In these cases the client’s particular sexual interests from mild to wild may not be the problem. The porn they view and the frequency may not the problem. Wanting sex every day may not the problem. Wanting more or different sex than their partner may not the problem.
The problem may be the paralyzing fear or shame they feel of ever revealing the true nature and depths of their sexual desire to those close to them. The problem can be the harm caused in their relationships by the cover-up they must maintain as they pursue their desires in secrecy. They may be in deep psychological distress from the sneaking, lying, betrayal, guilt, irresponsibility, fear of discovery and most damaging of all – the loss of personal integrity and trust that the cover-up demands.
The core conflict may be the internal psychological struggle the client has between their innate sexual desires and the shame, fear, or harsh moral judgments about their sexuality, embedded from their childhood. Past trauma or shaming may have disempowered them in some way from having sexual agency or trusting others with their sexuality. The conflict may also center around fundamental sexual differences with their partner’s sexuality. Their partners, religion or community may not condone nor encourage their sexual honesty, style nor frequency.
The Sexual Integration Theory and Practice approach to dealing with sexual compulsivity starts with allowing the client to define or begin to discover what their innate sexuality looks like. It supports them to understand what interferes with or resists it honest expression, and then develop a personal methodology to integrate their sexuality into their everyday life in a way that is in integrity with their values, agreements, responsibilities and relationships.
SITP considers that when a client learns to claim their birthright as a sexual being they will realize there is nothing about their authentic sexual nature that deserves to be covered-up.
SITP helps clients begin to own their sexual truth in an empowered, confident and shame-free way.
Is Sex/Porn Addiction the Problem or the Symptom
Shifting Sexual Compulsivity aka Sex/Porn Addiction to Sexual Authenticity
Secret Sex Lives –The Crisis of Our Sexual Dishonesty
Sexuality as Birth-Right and Integral to Your Wholeness
Understanding Sexual Authenticity Disorder
The Psychological Dynamics of Sexual Fantasy
The 5 Keys to Integrating Your Sexuality into Everyday Life
Untangling Fear, Shame & Trauma from Sexual Desire
The 6 Stages of Reclaiming Sexual Agency from Shame, Fear or Trauma
Erotic Mismatches – How to Claim Your Sexual Autonomy and Negotiate Differences with Your Partner’s Sexuality
Exploring what “Normal” means…to you
Sex is Friction-Eros is Myth…Why the Archetypal, Symbolic and Primal Narratives of Kink Sexuality are so Compelling
The Importance of Being Mindful, Present and Embodied
Learning Impeccable Respect for Boundaries and Consent
Personal Erotic Myth Research Survey –Intriguing results from over 5000 respondents mapping the collision of fear, shame, or trauma with sexual development and desire
Another important issue, specific to couples, that SITP might approach differently, than the sex/porn addiction model are perceived or actual Erotic Mismatches.
SITP promotes the value and importance of the client learning to be honest and transparent in explaining their desires. SITP helps clients understand they have every right to negotiate for what they desire in their sexual connection with their partners.
The client learns how negotiate with their partners in a direct way to give this important aspect of themselves the respect it deserves, if not in fact adding greater pleasure, intimacy and trust into their mutual sexual engagements.
This is of course means they may discover they are not matched sexually, or they could find new vistas of pleasure opening up that never felt possible previously.
This is of course complex relational and personal work for both the client and their partner to undertake. SITP supports the client and their partner to do their personal work to get in integrity with themselves and then each other, in how they negotiate their sexuality and their relationship.
About Galen Fous MTP
Sex-Positive Therapist, Researcher and Author Galen Fous MTP will introduce the principles of Sexual Integration Theory, discuss his ground-breaking research on the psychological dynamics of sexual fantasy from mild to Kink, and review the impacts of sexual shame, fear and trauma on sexual development and pleasure.
His research work is based on the analysis of over 5000 participants from his Discover Your Personal Erotic Myth sex research survey.
Galen will discuss practices and insights from his client and personal work over 2 decades, that support people to shift from compulsive sexual behaviors aka sex/porn addiction, to authentic sexual engagement, in a conscious, responsible shame-free manner.
This will often include helping the client begin to untangle various layers of shame, fear and trauma that interfere or prohibit fully present, honest, embodied sexual expression.
This presentation will introduce a psychological model of the sexual psyche and therapeutic techniques drawn from CBT, depth, analytical, positive and transpersonal theories of psychology.