One can destroy trust and connection – another offers transcendent dark-edged sexual ecstasy

“Galen is one of our favorite presenters…always fascinating, insightful and compelling insights into the Psychology of Kink.” Dusty – Kink.com events

Our unresolved shadow personas can wreak havoc on our D/s relationships.  They can also add potent psychological depths to our erotic excursions into the taboo edges of BDSM sex.

For example, a raging tyrant or an incessant victim aspect of a person may be triggered to life in a moment, that acts nothing like the noble Dom or sub one aspires to be.  

But in a consensual, negotiated scene, bringing out the tyrant aspect has the potential to drive the sexual intensity off the charts for both Dom and sub. There can also be a shadow behind one’s hesitancy to fully embody the tyrant in a scene, even when a partner desires that intensity.

Learning about and beginning to resolve our shadows can build profound trust, enhance the depth and intimacy of our D/s relationships, and allow the deepest expression and ecstatic experience of our personal BDSM sexual personas. 

Concepts Considered

• Shadows of Dominant – abdicates the lead, does not set/hold boundaries, belittles rather than blesses, dictates rather than inspires, rages instead of listens and inquires.

• Shadows of submissive – defiant instead of obedient, judges silently instead of asks, bratty instead of respectful, controlling from the bottom

• Impact of early shame trauma, terror and embedded judgments on authentic Dominance/submission

• Paradox – How can I be a dark-edged, perverse, sadist/masochist and still be viewed as a devoted parent, loving partner and good-hearted person in service in the world

• Dealing with the shadow of fear

• Shadow as mindfuck 

• Shadow Dom/shadow sub- Are they limiting the depths of connection to your core Dominant or submissive, when then could be the gateway to ecstatic sexual ecstasy?

Date: October 14th   Time: 7-9pm Berlin time

Location: Online Webinar 

Tickets: 12 Euros = $14 USD

Registration: https://galenfous.com/product/shadow-archetypes-of-d-s-bdsm-october-14th-7-9pm-berlin-time-online/

Context

Our shadows and their particular behaviors are often unconscious personas that were formed as a psychological defense when we were judged, shamed, terrorized or traumatized when we were young. When activated, their expression can range from fierce anger to aloof, cold and disconnected. They can influence what we approach or avoid in life in ways we are not even conscious of.

Our shadows can be activated by current situations or people that somehow recall the danger or anxiety of those childhood experiences. They are emotionally based and show up as shame, fear, anger or psychological or physical sadism and more.

They can show up in subtle to overt ways. When we have not brought them into conscious awareness, our shadows can diminish, hamper or even annihilate the expression of our noble Dom or sub natures in moments.  If not brought to awareness they can lead to violations minor to major in our relationships or BDSM play.

Having conscious awareness of your shadows and working on taking your power back from those that can overrule your intention is a valuable practice to undertake. It is integral to making your D/s-BDSM connections empowering for both Dom and sub and allows the deepest transcendent psychological and physical ecstasy of BDSM to be reached.

Join us for the Shadow Archetypes of Dominant and submissive and discover techniques for safer play, deeper ecstasy and intimate connection.

About Galen Fous MTP: Kink-Positive Therapist, Author, Educator & Sex Researcher

Galen lectures internationally at universities, grad schools and psychology conferences about sexual authenticity, the psychological dynamics of Kink and untangling shame, fear and trauma from sexual desire. 

He is on the faculty of the Modern Sex-Therapy Institute where he offers CE approved classes for therapists, on Kink-positive psychology and Sexual Integration Theory and Practice – a sex-positive alternative to the sex/porn addiction treatment model.

He has a Masters in Transpersonal Psychology from Institute of Transpersonal Psychology.

Galen works with clients within a Transpersonal framework that helps individuals and couples move through shame, fear and trauma towards honest, embodied and confident expression of their authentic desires. 

Galen’s latest book, “Decoding Your Kink – Guide to Explore, Share and Enjoy Your Wildest Sexual Desires” has been praised by sexual psychologists and educators as “Visionary …Masterful …Groundbreaking …Cutting Edge…Worth its Weight in Diamonds … Highly Recommended…A Must Read!” He is also the author of “The Sharp Edge of Love – Extreme Sex, Mythic Passion, Primal Intensity. 

An important component of his research into the nature of Fetishsexual and Kink desire is the development of the Discover Your Personal Erotic Myth Survey.   ( http://galenfous.com/pem ) This ground-breaking and ongoing research survey with over 6000 participants so far, will be the first to study and begin to document the mythic archetypal, symbolic aspects of Fetishsexuality and mapping of the sexual unconscious.

Galen has been active in the Kink-lifestyle since the late 90’s. Find him on Fetlife.

Learn more at https://galenfous.com 

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