Shadow Archetypes of D/s and BDSM
One can destroy trust and connection – another offers transcendent dark-edged sexual ecstasy Our unresolved shadow personas can wreak havoc on our D/s relationships. They can also add potent psychological depths to our erotic excursions into the taboo edges of BDSM sex. For example, a raging tyrant or an incessant victim aspect of a person may be triggered to life in a moment, that acts nothing like the noble Dom or sub one aspires to be. But in a consensual, negotiated scene, bringing out the tyrant aspect has the potential to drive the sexual intensity off the charts for both Dom and sub. There can also be a shadow behind one’s hesitancy to fully embody the tyrant in a scene, even when a partner desires that intensity. Learning about and beginning to resolve our shadows can build profound trust, enhance the depth and intimacy of our D/s relationships, and allow the deepest expression and ecstatic experience of our personal BDSM sexual personas. Concepts Considered Shadows of Dominant - abdicates the lead, does not set/hold boundaries, belittles rather than blesses, dictates rather than inspires, rages instead of [...]