PEMSurvey… 2022-02-21T10:12:44+00:00


Your  participation in the  anonymous PEM survey, is greatly appreciated, and will help contribute to my ongoing research in developing a deeper, more accurate and  objective view of Fetish based sexuality.

Understanding Your Core Sexuality or Personal Erotic Myth Can Open You to Unimagined Sexual Ecstasy,  Deepen  Intimacy in Your Relationships, and Help You Avoid Erotic Mismatches in Long Term Relationships!

A PEM is an embedded component of the inner psyche that contains the story-lines, fantasy imagery, paired archetypal personas (Dom/sub), dialogue, props, attire, setting and actions, that drive a person that has a PEM to orgasm, or other deep erotic states. It is often expressed in Fetish, Kink and D/s-BDSM oriented sex. Some people are quite aware of their PEM, and may have caught glimpses of it, or more , well before puberty…even if they have yet to share it with another.  Some may have already crossed the threshold of secrecy their desire may have been held in, to engage the desire itself. Some will have miniGF.admultiple PEM’s that ebb and flow in their sex life. For many others,  it is  still an unconscious but compelling force, just below acknowleged awareness,  that drives their sexual desire. It is the aspect of their Eros that they have not looked at, or engaged in consciously.  But during sex, in the moments right before orgasm,  it can flood into the body in wild, fierce gestures, accompanied by profane, blasphemous invectives (sound-bytes from the PEM) . If you are curious, and ready to discover more about your PEM take the Personal Erotic Myth Research Survey below.

Once you take the survey, you can opt-in to review the fascinating statistics and comments of over 1700 previous responders. The opt-in email address will be found in the thank you message that appears after you hit the submit button at the end of the survey.


(Survey starts below, if you wish to skip context )


Coming Soon…PEM 2.0

After 7000 plus participants in the original PEM Survey, I am in the process of improving and updating the soon to be launched PEM 2.0 . I am aiming for an April 1 relaunch. Sign up for my newsletter to get the announcement. Please come back then.

If you are looking for support around untangling shame, fear or sexual trauma from your deepest sexual desires, you can review and arrange a client session with me through the Client Tab 


I believe those blasphemies and primitive groans expressed just before orgasm are often just a “sound byte” from one’s PEM. The PEM is like a zip file, stored in the unconscious. It contains hours of content, that includes all the elements of a mythic erotic story…archetypal personas, counterpart personas, setting, history, attire, dialogue, body language, props, et al. Some of these myths may stretch deep down the into the instinctual layers of our psychological structures that stem from the mammalian( hot-blooded, alpha/beta pecking order – dominance and submission) and reptilian( cold-blooded, predator/prey – sadist/masochist) phases of our biological and psychological heritage. These wilder, primitive aspects of human biology/psychology often show up in the myths, personas and physical expressions related to Fetish, Kink, and D/s-BDSM sexual expression. See for a panoramic view of the full range of Fetish interests and the millions of people already participating in them….or at least peering in covertly.

I believe this research in the nature of Fetishsexuality could be relevant in regards to updating the outdated dating protocols still operating in the culture at large. People are partnering and marrying without ever having discussed, let alone know what each others sexual desires look like, or how frequently or what kinds of sexual expression is central to their erotic nature. This leads to devastating erotic mismatches, which may lead to all sorts of shadowy, hidden, dangerous or deceptive behaviors eventually going on behind partners’ backs, or shows up in other harmful ways that disrupt if not destroy the relationship.

People knowing their PEM and tools of how to communicate that honorably to a potential partner may be more apt to have a stronger bond in their overall relationship than not, as well as a fulfilled and well-expressed sexuality.

I believe that upwards of 15% of the population has an inherent fetish-driven sexual nature, held within a PEM(s), just as around 10% of the gene pool is gay or lesbian in their sexual orientation. I speculate that it may be a MUCH higher percentage, and I am attempting to explore this theory further.

Completing the Survey may help you shed more light on your own desires, and be able to better consider how to engage them consciously in your life and your relationships. Please allow about 15 minutes to complete

You are welcome to share a link to this page within your own networks for others who may find this survey interesting and helpful. I would be grateful if you did!

If you are a blogger or write for other media, you are welcome to quote and link this article, and/or contact me for an interview.

Coming Soon…PEM 2.0

After 7000 plus participants in the original PEM Survey, I am in the process of improving and updating the soon to be launched PEM 2.0 .  I am aiming for an April 1 relaunch. Sign up for my newsletter to get the announcement. Please come back then.

If you are looking for support around untangling shame, fear or sexual trauma from your deepest sexual desires, you can review and arrange a client session with me through the Client Tab 


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  1. Galen November 12, 2013 at 6:57 pm - Reply

    Klaudia says:
    December December 19, 2013

    You are so interesting! I don’t suppose I have read a single thing like that before.

    So nice to find another person with a few genuine thoughts on this topic.
    Seriously.. many thanks for starting this up. This site is something that’s needed
    on the web, someone with some originality!

    cici says:
    November 16, 2012 at 5:34 am

    Greetings Galen,
    Thank you for the time you put into this survey/questionaire. i am impressed with the far-reaching implications for assisting folks out of confusion and frustration into self-knowledge and self-acceptance.

    Additionally, the ambition to transform normal dating into something much more useful (a method to delve and identify one’s own core erotic themes no less!) could mean–as you suggest–far higher percentage of viable long-term relationships is well-placed. Your work has the all the markings of a cutting-edge movement … i see a readiness all around me, i anticipate it will go viral.

    Kiki says:
    December 31, 2012 at 8:05 am

    It is amazing that I have so much suppressed sexual desire for my fantasy. I actually acted my fantasy out and felt shame … but I think about doing it and am so aroused. I learned a lot about myself and will pursue sexual fulfillment with alternative sex

    Cathy says:
    January 13, 2013 at 1:39 am

    Thank you for giving me a place to try and explain what i feel. It is so nice knowing that i am not alone.

    sweetpea says:
    January 16, 2013 at 7:46 am

    Very intriguing to go through. It certainly helps to open one’s eyes. 🙂

    Cassandra says:
    November 16, 2012 at 5:30 am
    Interesting that writing it down after thinking about it, brings to forefront just how much shame is involved, nearly didn’t complete the survey because of it, feel dirty and the need to go to church now!!

    David says:
    November 27, 2012 at 6:18 pm

    this made me really explore where I am at with my sexuality and I really it has really been a progression of fantasies and experiences, one feeding the other.

    rose says:
    January 29, 2013 at 9:53 am

    Thanks interesting test but in the area of people one might have wanted sex with sister was not in the margin.

    I think the work you are doing is certainly edgy and thank you.

    Linda says:
    November 16, 2012 at 5:26 am

    I am naked as I type this…. thank you for being brave and outrageous enough to ask me these very personal questions….. eat my panties, I dare you…… be my fucktoy

    Cassandra says:
    November 17, 2012 at 1:39 pm

    Filling out this survey and taking time out to consciously connect with that place within has made me aware that there are two stories in the shadows, that almost at some point merge. One around an experience when I was much younger which melts into the shame and guilt in the church environment. Hmmmm. Interesting, I didn’t even realise it. What else is yet to be bought out of the shadows and into my consciousness.????

    Blue Dove says:
    November 18, 2012 at 4:36 am

    Lynn says:
    November 18, 2012 at 12:28 pm
    Interesting survey, I have only begun breaking the surface of my sexual exploration based on my past. I have been delving into the psychology of the ordeal. It would be nice to know the results of your survey, if possible.

    Denee says:
    November 18, 2012 at 11:49 pm
    Thank you 🙂

    Robo says:
    November 19, 2012 at 7:06 am
    Fun test.


    Jack says:
    November 24, 2012 at 10:23 am



    Dwight magnuson says:
    November 24, 2012 at 2:06 pm

    I would like to see the overall results and where I fit in them.
    Yours is the first survey that asks questions that I feel fit my sexual awakening.

    Jeanne Mvf de B says:
    November 25, 2012 at 2:37 am

    Thank you, anyway the questions were very entertaining !

    Joe says:
    November 27, 2012 at 10:08 pm

    Very interesting and enlightening.

    SuzisMutt says:
    November 28, 2012 at 11:41 am

    I got what i wanted, now i get what i deserve.

    Steve says:
    November 30, 2012 at 4:55 pm

    Thanks you, I’ll be looking out for the results 🙂

    Amanda says:
    December 2, 2012 at 11:28 am

    This was fun! Thanks for the opportunity!

    KaiserWilhelm says:
    December 7, 2012 at 9:14 pm

    I can see how this data could be extremely useful in analysis….Thanks for providing this…

    Eva says:
    December 8, 2012 at 12:36 pm

    Interested to hear about the results

    Fred says:
    December 9, 2012 at 4:59 pm

    Good to reflect on this, and would like to see the results.

    Sway says:
    December 10, 2012 at 12:09 pm

    Thank you! Great survey, I’m interested in hearing about more.

    Doris says:
    December 18, 2012 at 1:28 pm

    Very interesting study. I would like to know more about it.

    Alistair says:
    December 18, 2012 at 2:04 pm

    Eve says:
    December 18, 2012 at 11:15 pm

    very interesting, had fun and discovered a couple of things about myself.

    charlene says:
    January 1, 2013 at 5:06 pm

    I was very astonished my sexual abuse could be so linked to my story structure. Very eye-opening!

    Daniel says:
    January 6, 2013 at 8:34 pm

    I have multiple partners (one of which I have not yet met in person) I love them all dearly with all my heart and could have made the story part longer even. It makes me miss them even more though, as two are in Arizona and the one I have not met yet even further away. This helped me know more about myself just filling it out. Thank you Galen

    Jade says:
    February 13, 2013 at 11:04 pm

    This was very interesting and quite fun. Thank you!

    Sophie says:
    April 5, 2013 at 1:30 pm

    Quite a long but nonetheless interesting survey. Had fun trying it.

    Warren says:
    April 27, 2013 at 11:32 pm
    Would be interested in seeing where this leads.

    James says:
    May 4, 2013 at 2:56 pm
    Quite interesting. I will certainly tell others about this.


    Jean-Marc says:
    June 1, 2013 at 9:52 pm

    very nice survey, I would love to read the results. I wrote a stupid comment in the last question because I took the survey before I read the introductory text, sorry.

    pamela says:
    September 13, 2013 at 9:26 pm

    Ethan says:
    October 14, 2013 at 2:41 pm
    It was great to sort of contribute to this survey which in a way was trying to tell someone what my desires are and who i’m.


    Vivica Liquer says:
    November 2, 2013 at 8:54 pm

    That was fun! Now I’m all hot and bothered ha!

  2. Finn November 25, 2013 at 8:51 am - Reply

    Thank you for doing this survey!! Very compelling questions!!

  3. John December 7, 2013 at 10:33 pm - Reply

    A very good survey, glad to take part.Its hard to be honest in our sex negative culture.

  4. Christina December 11, 2013 at 10:18 pm - Reply

    I just got aware of my newest fantasy, which is obviously a very old longing for healing and love, maybe even from before I was born. Very interesting. Very revealing. Could also be my own birth. The survey was kind of therapeutic;-) Thank you very much.

  5. Kelcey December 28, 2013 at 9:19 pm - Reply

    Very thought provoking survey..

  6. Diane March 4, 2014 at 11:10 pm - Reply

    I absolutely loved taking the survey. In life many look at sex as Taboo. Exploring your sexuality with your partner shouldn’t be frowned upon. If anything you learn your likes and dislikes as well as his. Nothing is sexier that being the others desire and exploring outside the realm of conformity. Just have a code word to stop.

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